It’s been ages since I last played at Merdekarya and when I saw the opportunity to open mic for one of my favorite local bands, The Propositions!, I jumped at the chance. They’re playing a long set on the 25th of November, and I’ll be one of the open mic performers before they take the stage.
Nothing to do on a Monday night? Drop by Twenty Eight, Telawi for some beers and chill tunes. Should be a blast! This will be my eleventh show this year, which coincidentally falls on the eleventh month as well.
I’m a curious guy. I like clicking all the buttons in programs or pushing every button on a computer until I learn about what they do or things break. I enjoy discovering and experiencing new things. I like to try everything before forming an opinion.
After all, there are some things out there you don’t know you need or enjoy until you’ve tried them. Like drugs.
So when my company announced a monthly budget for mental health, I figured – hey, why not use it? I had never visited a therapist before and was curious about it. I didn’t think I needed mental help, but also I didn’t know if I didn’t need it.
With that in mind, I went in with an open mind.
I entered therapists near me in Google, and a center popped up a few minutes away from home. Sweet! Sent them an email to inquire about the price and process, and received a reply the next day. Gave them my WhatsApp number and I continued the conversation there.
I had a conversation with the person running the account and booked myself an appointment shortly after. On the day of the appointment, I arrived at the center about five minutes early and was instructed to register myself.
After that, I entered a room and waited for the therapist.
She arrived after a few minutes and asked me what’s up? I told her I had this budget to spend, wasn’t sure if I needed therapy, and was giving it a shot. She nodded and asked me what she could help me with. I told her about my work-related problems.
If you were expecting some tea, sorry to disappoint.
We spoke for almost an hour, and she was unbiased and remained neutral throughout the whole session. The best part is, that she gave me some actionable advice, which I’ll share below. Hopefully, it can be useful to some of you too.
Problem: Procrastination/Staying Focused
Measure the time you spend procrastinating
Once you know how long you’re procrastinating each day, shorten those breaks
Each week, try to reduce those unproductive minutes (e.g. 2 hours to 1.5 hours, to 1 hour, to 45 minutes, and so on)
Take short breaks every time you lose focus. Leave your desk and walk around, talk to people, then come back later
Write down your tasks and if possible, the time it takes to complete them, that will help you allocate your time each day
Imposter Syndrome:
If you feel undeserving of compliments, look for proof of why you think you’re doing a bad job instead of looking for proof that a compliment is insincere
General Mental Self-Care Tips:
Ask yourself how you feel every morning, talk to yourself. Voicing it out can help you understand yourself
Have something to look forward to every day. It can be as simple as watching a show or hanging out with a friend. Set a reward for yourself each day
And that sums up my very first therapy session. Did it change me? Maybe. I did walk away with new knowledge. So what did I think of therapy?
Therapists only know what you reveal to them. The quality of their advice is going to be based on how much or what you let them know. If you don’t give them anything to work with, they won’t be able to help you much.
After my first experience, I’ve concluded that it’s not something I would pay so much for but because I get it for ‘free’, I wouldn’t mind going back again. Maybe I’d try other therapists just to see how different it can be.
For now, I’ll try practicing what the therapist suggested and see if it helps me with my work. I’ll report in a few weeks, hopefully with good news.
In the meantime, here’s a related song that features the Number 1 Hot New Band, Hot Mulligan. Happy Mental Awareness Week (one month late)!
